 General Info
| I Am Here For: |
To Meet People, Still looking for her vampire Princess! |
| Marital Status: |
Single |
| Children: |
Have children |
| Education: |
High School |
| Religion: |
Atheist |
| Smoke: |
No |
| Drink: |
No |
| Occupation: |
Vampire Elder and a Mistress |
| Body Type: |
More to love! |
| Height: |
6' 4" |
| Ethnicity: |
Black / African Descent |
| Languages: |
English |
Sexy Stuff
| I Am Looking For: |
Virtual Relationship, Cyber Sex, Social Encounters, Erotic Chat, Cyber Friendships |
| Sexual Fantasies: |
Fetishes, Swapping, Domination, Bondage, A Beach, Costumes, Toys, Sadism & Masochism, Massage Oil, A Public Place |
| Sex is Best: |
Passionate, Loving, Wild, Kinky, In a Relationship, |
| Cybersex: |
Yes |
| I Want You To: |
Play Along With My Fantasy, Tell Me You Love Me, Talk Dirty to Me, Tell Me I'm The Best, Tell Me Your Fantasy |
| Cybersex Personality: |
Seductress/Seductor, Experienced, Loving, Passionate, Dominating, Voyeur, Threesomes, Fun With Toys, Nasty, Adventurous, Kinky, Aggressive, Wild, Role Player, Exhibitionist |
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GDS_RASPUTIA_LVG's Scoop
About me:
 Hello good folks of rlc my name is Goddess Rasputia LVG.
Who am i now and who was i then?
I am glad you asked?
I'm the opposite of a slut, because I never give a fuck!
I am a Vampire Goddess Mistress and a WG!
Proud and sole owner of the LVG......TAG Lesbian Vampire Goddess!
I am also the proud vampire goddess of the Toreador clan!
Toreador~
The Toreador are one of seven playable clans in Vampire: The Masquerade – Bloodlines. The clan has long been associated with art and socializing, which is incorporated into their weakness – when they are faced with a thing of beauty, they struggle to turn their attention from it.
While other vampires can travel through human society, and even blend in, the Toreador do it flawlessly and effortlessly. They are the closest to humans in appearance; they enjoy being in the center of the spotlight, and having mortals admire them. They're also the best manipulators and can easily get kine to do what they want. The Toreador are creatures of beauty and passion, and most of them were musicians, artists and poets in their mortal lives.
The word "Toreador", meaning "bullfighter", was invented by Georges Bizet for his opera Carmen when he decided that the Spanish "Torero" had too few syllables to fit the song in which it is sung. The eponymous Carmen is best known for her desire to be admired and for her ability to manipulate the other characters in the opera. This is reflected in the lore of the Toreador which paints them as master manipulators, and the association with Bizets' opera is hinted at in both their love of art and the symbol of the rose.
Phenomenal woman~
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
Maya Angelou
What RLC type are you? Your Result: The DOMinator Often found in the Welcome Centre rooms or Passions BDSM room, you demand respect at all times. You expect loyalty from your subs, but deep down you like them as people and would be the first to defend them or help them if they needed. You are not fond of other 'doms' at all, and can usually be heard telling the rest of us how they are all charlatans who don't know what they're doing. 
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My Slave Rules And Code Of Conduct
1.A slave must be honest from the moment she begins communicating with a Domme. Never lie about relationships, experience level or anything else.
2.A slave will seek to understand want she wants and needs and to know the difference between the two.
3.A slave needs to realize some fantasies will never be more than just that. And that some of his fetishes may not strike a responsive chord within her.
4.A slave has a duty to act as an intelligent human being.
5.A slave repays a Domme’s attention with respect, humility and obedience. This is inherent in the nature of the relationship.
6.A slave always communicates her feelings as clearly as possible.
7.If the slave feels that her needs aren’t being met she will confess that respectfully without seeming to make demands.
8.A slave will watch to see if her Domme is tired or not feeling well and focus on her comfort, not on having a session.
9.A slave should never think of a Domme as a torture and humiliation machine. That is objectifying her.
10.A slave will remember that D/s is a relationship between people. her will strive to never forget that the Domme is a human being. That regardless of the power relationship thoughtless behavior on her part can inflict emotional hurt on the other person.
11.Always address Mistress as Mistress, never Miss. Address all other Doms as Miss or Ma'am, or Sir for males, Gds, Qns,King, Duchess, Baroness, Baron Lord etc.
12,You will report to me when you are online if not coming to me you will pm me to greet me. And also you will pm me asking permission before porting to me.
13. You are never to submit to another dominant without first getting my permission.
14. If there is a disagreement with a dominant please don't take it upon yourself to straighten it out. Please see me and i will remediate straightening the situation out as it were!
15.We will not tolerate drama nor fighting.
Please settle all disputes quietly among one another!
16. There will be no fading nor shading out without your Mistresses permission.
17. You will always kneel when greeting and leaving your Mistress. And will never leave unless booted without your Mistresses permission!
18. You will always start a conversation on local and get permission from your Mistresses before accepting a pm.
19.always carry yourself with respect and pride. For whatever you do reflects me.
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Who I'd like to meet:
Acceptance of thy self within yourself, what your wants and needs and your desires are. acceptance of your limitations and those of my submissives. the ability 2 accept another human being 4 the person that they are. for their short comings especially accepting my own. accepting what a dominant means to being to and for the indivual. and not being ashamed nor intimidated by the needs that lay within. but happy in ones my mind sets.
i am a very strict but fair dominant. i rule in a very sane and a safe enviroment. the world is worthy as i boast my up north dialect. reaping the rewards of my submissives.
My rules:
1.RESPECT
2.OBEDIANCE
3.HONESTY
4. LOYALITY.
WHAT IS SUBMISSION?
The three main levels of a submissive which I have seen are as follows. Be aware there are more concise groupings than these three broad ones, as evidenced by the 9 levels of submission that are widely used and referred to in many books of D/s and discussions of D/s.
A: Sexual Submissive (AKA bottom, sensual submissive)
a sexual sub is in D/s for their own sexual gratification. Once their sexual needs are met they are satisfied. They feel no real need to submit any personal control to another.
B: Psychological Submissive
This broad category tends to include those who are in it for the pain and humiliation a D/s relationship can give them. This category tends to include most masochists. Those who have suffered real abuse and are stuck in victim mode, tend to end up in this category.
C: Natural Submissive (AKA True Submissive)
Is born with a submissive nature. A need to please others. This need and submissive tendency goes beyond sexual gratification. It is in their nature to please others, and they will readily give up their control to another with very little or no urging from their dominant.
Who's to say which category is correct. Being submissive is as unique and individual as you are your own person. Being submissive comes from the heart. It can not be faked, acted or role played. True submission is a gift of high value. It is my opinion that those of us within the lifestyle should not judge any one else within the lifestyle. Who are we to say that a sexual sub is not submissive on a different level? Or that there can only be one type of submissive? Remember, life is full of small variances and innuendoes, so is D/s.
The three main levels of a submissive which I have seen are as follows. Be aware there are more concise groupings than these three broad ones, as evidenced by the 9 levels of submission that are widely used and referred to in many books of D/s and discussions of D/s.
A: Sexual Submissive (AKA bottom, sensual submissive)
a sexual sub is in D/s for their own sexual gratification. Once their sexual needs are met they are satisfied. They feel no real need to submit any personal control to another.
B: Psychological Submissive
This broad category tends to include those who are in it for the pain and humiliation a D/s relationship can give them. This category tends to include most masochists. Those who have suffered real abuse and are stuck in victim mode, tend to end up in this category.
C: Natural Submissive (AKA True Submissive)
Is born with a submissive nature. A need to please others. This need and submissive tendency goes beyond sexual gratification. It is in their nature to please others, and they will readily give up their control to another with very little or no urging from their dominant.
Who's to say which category is correct. Being submissive is as unique and individual as you are your own person. Being submissive comes from the heart. It can not be faked, acted or role played. True submission is a gift of high value. It is my opinion that those of us within the lifestyle should not judge any one else within the lifestyle. Who are we to say that a sexual sub is not submissive on a different level? Or that there can only be one type of submissive? Remember, life is full of small variances and innuendoes, so is D/s.
Which Female Twilight Character Are You? Your Result: Victoria  Congrats! You got Victoria. You're quite an intense, committed individual. You tend to hold grudges and seek out vengeance to anyone who wrongs you - especially your family or close friends. People should definitely watch out for you, as you don't take being wronged lightly. Remember that it's okay to forgive and let go sometimes; after all, you might only end up hurting yourself! |
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BDSM~
BDSM
BDSM is a term which describes a number of related patterns of human sexual behavior. The major subgroupings are described in the abbreviation "BDSM" itself:
Bondage & Discipline (B&D)
Domination & Submission (D&S)
Sadism & Masochism (or Sadomasochism) (S&M)
Many of the specific practices in BDSM are those which, if performed in neutral or nonsexual contexts, could be considered unpleasant, undesirable, or abusive. For example, pain, physical restraint and servitude are traditionally inflicted on persons against their will and to their detriment. In BDSM, however, these activities are engaged in with the mutual consent of the participants, and typically for mutual enjoyment. (Any "consent" may or may not amount to legal consent and represent a defense to criminal liability for any injuries caused.)
This emphasis on informed consent and safety is also known as SSC (safe, sane and consensual), though others prefer the term RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), believing that it places more emphasis on acknowledging the fact that all activities are potentially risky. There is discussion and dispute about the meaning or intent of the terms, but in essence, both terms refer to all participants acknowledging and accepting some level of risk.
BDSM may or may not involve sex of any kind.
BDSM may or may not involve sexual roleplaying.
How dominant or submissive a person may be in their regular life does not necessarily indicate which role they will play in a scene. Some might opine that there is roughly an inverse relationship.
Some BDSM players are polyamorous or sexually monogamous but engage in non-sexual play with others.
A couple may engage in BDSM sexuality with an otherwise non-D/s relationship dynamic.
Hot wax is one of the more intense and erotic things that we, as BDSM players, get involved in. However, hot wax can be considered edge play and something that requires training and experience. Hot wax applied improperly is dangerous! Hot wax applied properly and at the right time in a scene is immensely erotic.
In the following paragraphs, we will attempt to address not only the ways to apply hot wax to a submissive, but also what tools to use and special safety issues to be considered while doing hot wax play.
General Safety Rules
As we said in the introduction, hot wax applied improperly is dangerous! Using the wrong melting point wax and/or not checking temperature of the molten wax can result in up to third degree burns, requiring immediate attention by a physician. Obviously, most of us are not interested in a ride naked in an ambulance after having suffered serious burns and having to live through the embarrassment of explaining how we got that way!
Another area we need to address is the types of wax and the possible additives that might be in it. Perfumes, hardeners, and other additives can, and have, caused serious allergic reactions. A skin rash in the genital area for instance or on the nipples is both uncomfortable and can become infected further. Other reactions are possible due to additives in the wax. It can be said that, in general, straight unadulterated paraffin wax is unlikely to cause any sort of reaction.
The bottom line to all this is, if you chose to use something other than straight paraffin, try a small amount on an arm before you end up coating your sub in wax.
Melting Points
First, lets talk a little about the types of wax and the temperatures at which they become liquid (melt). The following table describes different types of waxes, based on their additive content, in what form they might likely be found and their initial melting points:
RULES FOR AN D/S RELATIONSHIP
Too many submissive women think they have to take whatever any abusive chudwah calling himself a master wants to dish out, and nobody seems to be telling them otherwise.
I believe that submissiveness in a woman is simply a personality trait, not a weakness, and certainly not a disability. I prefer strong self-centered women for my own partners and have been fortunate over the years to attract women who were submissive to me but self-assured and competent in their own lives.
During that time, I have developed some Rules for a D/s relationship.
These are not standard fantasy-fodder, but instead constitute a real framework for a long-term healthy relationship between my partners and myself.
SERION'S OFFICIAL RULES
A Work in progress...
by Serion Ironcroft
I require your obedience, although I enjoy brattiness and other playful resistance and don't consider that to be disobedience when clearly intended to enhance my enjoyment of you.
I require your utter and complete truthfulness and honesty - no withholding of any requested information, period. That includes information about personal relationships between you and other people.
When I own you, I assume ownership of your other relationships as well. I reserve rights over those relationships, however I won't interfere in them capriciously or without your full prior knowledge.
I won't require you to break a confidence without having some significant purpose of my own. I will explain my purposes to you on request, and will fairly consider your explanation as to why you might not want to disclose a confidence to me. Any such information will rest between us in confidence, and I will not reveal it to other people without your specific consent.
I offer you the safe and unrestricted right to question me about anything. I will give a truthful and honest answer to any question. If for any reason I can't answer a question directly, I'll give an honest explanation of why I can't answer you.
I offer you the right to refuse me in anything without suffering automatic retribution. Your refusal tells me something is wrong between us and is therefore a reason for serious discussion to fix problems. However, if it becomes clear that you have refused me for capricious or selfish personal reasons, I reserve the right to punish you.
If I choose to punish you, you will not enjoy the punishment. However, you have a right to my continued affection and support, especially while I'm punishing you. I will never withhold my support and affection from you as a means of punishment.
My goal is to own you entirely, and to keep you physically and emotionally healthy. I rarely require immediate full ownership and will insist on written agreements between us to define mutual expectations and obligations at every stage of ownership.
Although I expect your total and complete submission, I have no interest in running your daily life, which remains your responsibility. However, if there's anything I want from you, from something as trivial as the color of your lipstick to something as serious as quitting a job or giving up a friendship, then I expect your obedience, after any pertinent and appropriate discussions or negotiations are concluded.
I will take what I want from you in as responsible a manner as I can. I will not seriously interfere in your personal life without appropriate consideration of my own purposes as compared to the effect of my wishes on your life. However, by submitting yourself to me, you must expect me to use you as I wish.
If you want a safeword or safety signal, I'll set one up. I will respect your safewords and safety signals, but will not rely on them. I will treat your use of a safeword like any other refusal.
I consider it my responsibility to know when you're in trouble. I'll try to keep you safe no matter how thoroughly restrained or how deeply lost in subspace you might be. If I push you over an edge, I accept the responsibility of bringing you back safely.
The 9 Levels Of Submission?
Within the S/M subculture, different people use the words "submissive and slave" to mean many different things. When submissives say "I want to be your slave," sometimes they mean only that they want to be tied up and whipped. Many professional dominants routinely refer to their (usually _not_ very genuinely submissive clients) as "slaves." At the other extreme, there are people who want to be full-time personal servants, and who truly want to exist solely for their Dom(me)'s use, pleasure and convenience. And there are many shades in between these two extremes.
1.THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST.Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensatons rather than by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism).
2.PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Not into even playing "slave," but into other "submissive" role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.
3.PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).
4.TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsbility. Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct/pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
5.TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant-but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May/may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.
6.UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE. Really gives up control (usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long-term relationship with one's Mistress, but, either way, the "slave" has the final say over when she will serve.
7.PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE. Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant's property at all times. Wants to obey and please dom(me) in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job) but Dom(me) has first pick of the slave's free time.
8.FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE. Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Dom(me)'s pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially of the slave is male. Within the S/M world, a full time "slave" arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
9.CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS. A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn't exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the "consent" is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren't really a slave unless you're willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom(me), with no limits at all. I've met a few people who claimed to be no-limit slaves, but in all cases I have reason to doubt the claim.
BITCHOGY~
When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch.
When I stand up for those I love,
they call me a Bitch.
When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts
or do things my own way, they call me a
Bitch. Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart.
It means I live my life MY way.
It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.
When I refuse to tolerate injustice and
speak against it, I am defined as a
Bitch. The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish.
It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am
and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I "should" be.
I am outspoken, opinionated and determined. I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that! So try to stomp on me,
try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me.
You won't succeed. And if that makes me a bitch , so be it. I embrace the title and
am proud to bear it.
B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself
B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman
B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle
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BLOOD SPORTS~
Any BDSM activities which break the skin and result in blood being shed. It could, for example, be cutting with a knife or razor, a hard whipping or caning, branding or piercing. A few Goths who dabble on the fringes of BDSM are heavily into the 'vampire' thing and see themselves as blood-suckers. Dracula never had to contend with AIDS though, so always take care when theres blood around and take sensible steps to avoid wounds getting infected. Use rubbing alcohol to clean off the surface of the skin, followed by a good disinfectant on the skin area that is going to be cut. Given the risks of transmitting disease through blood, its sensible if the cutter wears surgical gloves to minimize contact with their partner's blood (just like your dentist probably does these days for the same reason). Use a very sharp instrument, like a surgical scalpel or a very sharp knife because dull blades risk making a ragged cut which heals badly. Do not cut on 'tight' areas of the skin (knee or elbow for example) where the wound will pull apart later. Don't cut anywhere near arteries (and don't even think of this kind of play if you don't know where they are). Cut lightly, only the very top layer of skin, because deeper cuts don't heal well. The cut needs to be protected (bandage or suitable covering) afterwards to prevent infection.
BREAKING A SUBMISSIVE~
Breaking is a term often heard within the BDSM community. The interpretation of what breaking means varies. In this area it is most often aligned with the 'breaking' of a horse or animal. Based on this interpretation the 'spirit' of the individual is being 'broken'. Some people like to consider it that point where the 'will' gives way to a superior force. The actual breaking of an individual's spirit is the last thing that a competent, healthy Dominant or submissive wishes to occur. The breaking of a 'spirit' removes the positive mental health of the individual. This would be similar to involuntary imprisonment such as during a war in a POW camp. It represents a desire to 'break down' the fundamental building blocks of the individuals psyche until they can no longer defend themselves from external invasion. The vanquishment of hope, self-respect and motivation to continue.
Sometimes a submissive believes that they need to be 'forced', 'conquered', or 'overcome' in order to maintain a level of self respect in submitting to another human being. It is a way they justify their need. This belief is erroneous and generally indicates an individual who has not openly embraced their needs or their self. It is also a way of avoiding self responsibility and imposing responsibility for your submissive conduct and responses onto your Dominant.
Many submissives approach Dominants asking to be 'broken'. Based on the wide range of what this term means the Dominant is often confronted with conflicting thoughts as to what exactly the submissive is asking of them. A Dominant does not break a submissive. A submissive is not to be forced beyond their mental and physical limits. Such force is abuse!
Many submissives interpret 'breaking' to be a Dominant overwhelming their desire to resist thereby 'forcing' them into obedience. Again, this is based on a flawed understanding of the dynamics at work here. A submissive overcomes their own desires to resist. Control is exercised from within. To some extent the Dominant presents the submissive with increasingly difficult mental and physical tasks to perform. The submissive by 'agreement' endeavors to perform these tasks as issued.
A Dominant directs action and resists the ability or desire of the submissive to manipulate them. The submissive either follows direction or they do not. Based on the negotiated agreements of the relationship structure the Dominant and the submissive then engage in actions in response to actions or failure. However, it is crucial to remember that the submissive is completely responsible for their actions. The desire to obey or disobey is a voluntary process. Some relationships flourish with 'tiny wars' between the Dominant and submissive. Or, ongoing subtle insurrection. Others require a stronger demonstration. Many Dominants find a 'level of resistance' exciting and challenging in their submissive. Others desire a submissive capable of total self control.
A person expressing an ability or desire to 'break' another human being should be avoided by a submissive. That person is not a Dominant with a vested interest in the overall mental and physical health of a submissive. Such a desire demonstrates personal issues and problems which may be severe and could place a submissive in a situation of grave risk to them.
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BEST SLAVE TRAINING: HYPNOSIS~
One can use post-hypnotic suggestions to simulate bondage, place a clit in the palm of your slave's hand or many other uses. However post-hypnotic suggestions are not the most effective use of hypnosis in slave training.
Hypnosis can be used in any of the four areas discussed in B.E.S.T. slave training. That is, changing behavior, emotions, self-image and thoughts. You can hypnotize your slave and have her:
1) visualize the proper behavior that you require,
2) feel the displeasure of improper behavior,
3) examine root causes of emotional reactions in training,
4) examine core beliefs and ideas about subjects and events that occur during training.
In addition, you can give suggestions that help strengthen the slave's self-image.
Also, resistance to training goals can be examined and motivations to achieve goals can be strengthened.
Hypnosis is only a tool to be used in slave training. It is not a replacement for proper and customary steps used in training.
Their is a very good reason that the stories on websites about hypnotic mind control are listed as fiction. The truth is that you CAN'T control another person's mind using hypnosis. All hypnosis is self-hypnosis or at the very best only guided by the hypnotist, not controlled by him. The mind has to many built-in safeguards to allow simple hypnosis to be used to take over the hypnotized person's mind. The hypnotized person thinks and feels emotions to clearly to be fooled or misguided.
If mind control is you idea of how you would like to use hypnosis or how you would like it used on you, it's just fiction. Yes, hypnosis can be used to change attitudes, beliefs and behaviors, but it's done in cooperation with the hypnotized person.
General Information on Hypnosis:
Hypnosis is usually defined in one of the following three ways:
1) The by-pass of the critical factor of the conscious mind and the establishment of acceptable selective thinking.
2) A state of mind that allows you to more easily accept suggestions.
3) Ways to communicate with the subconscious mind.
You have a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. Your conscious mind is where you spend most of your time. Its does the following functions:
1) Analysis - figures a way to solve a problem.
2) Rational part - your conscious mind gives you a reason for everything you do—right or wrong.
3) Willpower - The conscious mind's attempt to create change.
4) Working Memory - Just enough memory to get you through the average day. If it were compared to a computer, it would be ram memory.
The real part of the mind is the subconscious mind. It resists any attempt to make a change. It does not like to work and make changes. The subconscious is the part of the mind that makes each of us unique. The subconscious mind includes these functions:
Permanent memory - The hard drive where all memory is stored from birth.
Emotions - Are stored here and are sent to the conscious mind when activated by an event.
Habits - These are centered in the subconscious mind.
Self-preservation - The mind protects against real or imagined danger.
Core beliefs - our inner most beliefs about ourselves and the world. The foundation for our cognitive thinking.
Your subconscious is programmed from birth and things are added to your program each day. It works like a computer. In the beginning your mind is like a new computer. You have the basic programs to get up and running. As you grow and experience things in life, programs and data are added to this computer. Both good and bad information is added and permanently stored.
Your private logic and lifestyle are governed by the subconscious mind.
A positive suggestion, (example "I will go on a diet and lose weight") is easy for the subconscious to reject. It causes changes to habits, and emotions. It requires reprogramming of eating habits and actions. It’s much easier for the subconscious just to reject it without taking any action. When the subconscious rejects it the only place it has to go is willpower. Willpower, a conscious function, will not overcome programming in the subconscious mind.
There are three keys to successful hypnosis:
1) trust in the hypnotist
2) no fear of being hypnotized
3) understanding what hypnosis is and is not
Many people are afraid of hypnosis for a number of reasons and these fears have to be relieved before hypnosis can be successful.
Some of the common fears related to hypnosis are as follows:
1) Will I lose control of mind? NO.
2) Will I come out of hypnosis? YES.
3) Can you make me do something against my will? NO.
4) Can I hear everything while hypnotized? YES.
5) Will I remember anything? That depends on how deep you go. You may or may not remember - both are considered natural.
6) Is it safe? It is safe as long as you have a TRAINED person hypnotizing you.
7) Can I be forced to tell something I don’t want to? NO, you are not in a state beyond your will to override suggestions.
Most modern theories of hypnosis state that all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. The hypnotized subject can’t be forced to do anything while hypnotized that they would not do while awake. The hypnotist is a guide that leads the subject though the experience. Yes, hypnosis is consensual.
Proper training in hypnosis and hypnotherapy is necessary before undertaking any hypnosis that involves more than parlor room play.
Hypnosis offers no magical way of converting a submissive into a slave. It will not replace other behavioral and cognitive training steps. It provides a third tier of training by granting access to the subconscious mind. It’s a powerful tool, if properly used by a TRAINED Master. The Master can use hypnosis to:
help him to change his slave's habits,
examine his slave's emotions,
examine past trauma, emotional past experiences and offer relief,
examine and replace a slave’s faulty thinking,
improve his slave's behavior,
reduce stress and other sensation problems and
build self-image.
The following is borrowed and modified from "The Handbook of Brief psychotherapy and Hypnoanalysis" written by John A. Scott, Ph.D.
Hypnoanalysis involves:
1) Recognize the problem. Often accomplished by regression or other means.
2) Remove faulty belief.
3) Replace faulty belief.
4) Rehabilitation: The experiences that cause the reactions are identified and adjustments are determined.
5) Rehearsal of new behavior or new emotional reaction to events.
6) Reinforcement of new belief or behavior.
Being properly trained and qualified to do any of the above hypnotic steps takes more than just reading a book on hypnosis.
A submissive/slave should never accept a hypnotic suggestions to feel less pain before BDSM play. The suggestions should be REJECTED by you. Their are many good reasons to accept suggestions for reducing the feeling of pain, but BDSM play is NOT one. It would be the same as taking pain medication before BDSM play.
In addition, no one should allow an untrained person to hypnotize them and explore emotional past events. It is unsafe, without proper training.
BDSM SWINGING~
The customs associated with multiple partners (both polyamory and casual partnering) in BDSM differ substantially from the customs of Swinging. Most notably, Swingers tend to do things in pairs, with one pair of partners seeking another pair of partners such that all four people like each other enough to get sexually involved or to trade with each other. In BDSM, such insistence that people agree as a foursome to all get together would only be a coincidence. If one person in a couple wants to experience bottoming to knives and the other person wants to dominate someone by calling the person a slut, it would be highly unlikely for the couple to be able to find another couple whose interests are exactly that one partner wants to top a knife scene and the other wants to be called a slut! The unlikelihood of matching interests makes foursome-matching in BDSM rare.
A second striking difference between multiplicity of partners in BDSM and Swinging is evident at public events. At Swinger events, light touch is commonly the first approach to seeing if someone is interested in you. If two people are making love on a mattress and someone else is interested in joining in, lightly touching the leg or arm of one of the lovers and waiting for a nod or smile is an approved method of communication.
But at a BDSM event, touching someone even on the arm in the social space is customarily considered inappropriate; and approaching a scene and actually touching one of the partners can get you thrown out of the party or club! The common form of finding out if someone is willing to play with you is to ask that person some time during a social conversation.
A third way in which Swinging differs from BDSM comes from the emphasis that BDSM puts on prior verbal communication, loosely called negotiation. Vanilla sex is not as varied and not as risky as BDSM. Vanilla activities include actions familiar to most adults: kissing; stroking or licking the body gently, and particularly breasts and genitals; fellatio; cunnilingus; and intercourse. That list is narrow and familiar enough for most adults to be able to read body language about details on the fly. If you don't want something or want to make a minor adjustment to what someone else is doing at a Swinger event, it is usually easy to communicate with either body language or a brief whispered comment. A few words or a shift in body position usually do the trick!
But in BDSM, the range of activities is so broad, so potentially unfamiliar, and sometimes so unique to the individuals involved that prior discussion can preclude a lot of misunderstanding. If you unexpectedly put a knife to someone's throat while holding the person's hair, social custom, not to mention the law, would deem it an attack! To call someone a "slut" while holding the person's head to your cock or cunt, or to order someone to kneel next to you in a restaurant even in the remote corner you asked the Maitre D' for are all sufficiently unusual practices that it has simply evolved as the custom at BDSM events to negotiate even vanilla sex in advance. (In this sense, even what might be called "pickup" play at playparties typically involves the partners' knowing details about each other than many folks who have been married for a year don't ask! Negotiations before playing with someone new at a BDSM event can be quite involved and personal; and they get even more involved and personal after years of the partners' playing together.)
While we're at it, a fourth, though minor, difference between Swingers and folks who do BDSM is the common Swinger refrain: "No means No!" In BDSM, the identical requirement of consent certainly applies, but partners often negotiate a safeword that differs from the word "No." If you are at a Swinger event and someone's "No" is not observed, you would legitimately move in to help. If you are at a playparty or BDSM club and someone's "No" is not observed, you do not know for sure that consent is being violated. Usually playparties have hosts or DMs (Dungeon Monitor) whose job it is to assess or find out if consent is being violated, and if you are in doubt you should certainly approach the host or DM and alert him or her.
BAD DOM/MES~
"Bad" Dom/mes (full or part time) have problems that they themselves may not realize or maybe they do and don't care. They don't want to hear they are not "good" Dom/mes, so they wind up in denial, blaming the unsuccessful scene on the submissive, when the
submissive says s/he had problems and/or wants to discontinue with the Dom/me. Many of them drink while they are scening which distorts their sense of SSC, and do not catch life-threatening (or other) problems with their subs. The bdsm clubs/events I've been to do
not serve alcohol on the premises for that reason, and anyone coming to those clubs/events already intoxicated do not get in. Dungeon Masters are at these clubs/events to make sure Dom/mes don't play to close to the edge. All they'd need is someone being severely injured or dying for the club/event to be totally out of business, not to mention the bad press for the community. "Bad" Dom/mes usually have dual personas: the one they have in *public* play and the one they have in *private* play. Just because someone has an excellent public reputation, doesn't mean that the person is excellent in private play. (Someone in Seattle was banned from the whole bdsm/leather community for endangering subs in both public and
private play.)
Now, that I've said this, I'm ready to go into the reasons why a submissive may not want to say anything to the Dom/me:
Reputation in the community: the Dom/me has an excellent *public* reputation and has been in the scene for many years. If the submissive says anything to the Dom/me about not being pleased with how the scene turned out, it's likely that sub may be dissed by the
Dom/me and have his/her reputation sullied in the community.
Ego: the Dom/me believes that S/He is an excellent Dom/me and cannot deal with a sub saying that he/she was not pleased by the scene or that the Dom/me did something that wasn't appropriate, especially after telling the Dom/me that they disregarded any part of
SSC agreement.
Imbibement: the Dom/me drinks before or while S/He scenes with the sub. Alcohol makes *anyone* (even a Dom/me) lose judgment and S/He may miss things that should be paid attention to: sub safety and Dom/me saneness and may totally ignore consensuality. If the
scene goes wrong and the sub says anything, the Dom/me blames the sub and is into total denial about what happened. A Dom/me may even suffer a black out and not remember anything about SSC or what occurred with a sub.
Anger: A Dom/me may have problems with anger management. If a sub comes to the Dom/me after a scene or shortly thereafter and says: I'm not going to scene with you anymore because we don't have the connection or says I'm not going to scene with you
anymore because you didn't respect our agreement, the Dom/me gets very angry and starts posturing: How dare *you* tell me how to dominate you? I'm your Master/Mistress and you do what I say and anything I do to you is within the D/s relationship we have. Besides, it's *your* fault...*you* didn't communicate your needs, *you* said everything was fine when I asked you, *you* should have...it goes on an on...and if the Dom/me was drinking, then the anger is much worse.
Fear: Which brings us into fear and why the sub doesn't want to talk with the Dom/me about the issue: the submissive is afraid to communicate the problems with the scene because the Dom/me is/was verbally/ emotionally/ physically abusive (I'm not talking about scening, but abuse here), not in control of his/her faculties, has an anger management problem and/or has a drinking problem and the submissive is afraid of losing his/her place in the bdsm community because of damage to his/her reputation as a submissive due to the talk from the Dom/me. If the submissive attempts to warn others, the Dom/me denies and blames the
submissive (he/she doesn't communicate, he/she tops from the bottom, he/she is not a good sub...it goes on). To ignore Her/Him is what most submissives do because of their fear. S/He usually doesn't want to see what happened because of the above issues: Ego, Anger, Self-esteem and Reputation...
It is almost impossible to get rid of a "bad" Dom/me and usually continues on Her/His merry way because there is really not much a submissive can do alone, but it can be done. If the submissive talks with other subs about the problem he/she had with the Dom/me and finds out other subs have had the same problems with that Dom/me, then things change. Now, there are many subs who have had a problem with the Dom/me and, as what happened in the Seattle bdsm community, the "bad" Dom/me gets drummed out of the scene in the area where they live. Sometimes the other Dom/mes know that the person is a "bad" Dom/me and will drum Her/Him out of the community.
MHO is based on information I've received over the past 4 years from a variety of Dom/mes and subs who have shared information about former subs and former Dom/mes.
Books:
FEMALE MASTERBATION METHOD~
Female Masturbation Method
Usually when I'm alone and masturbating, I love to read erotic literature. That gets me very sexually aroused and my vagina gets super wet! After a while, the thought of masturbation becomes so urgent that I start to take off my clothes. I put on some quiet music in the background and start to feel my breasts. I play around with them until my nipples are really hard. Then, I start to play with my clitoris with one hand while the other is still caressing my breasts. By that time, I'm usually soaked and it's really easy to use my fingers in and out of my pussy - all the way up the vulva. At first I go slowly, and then I get faster… until I get a super orgasm. I imagine many things and they are not limited to sex. Sometimes I even think of other women masturbating.
FEMALE ORGASM~
It started with the feeling in her hips
When you kiss her French and her tits
She feels her body shiver and goose flesh
When you tell her about love and passion
Little trembles will go through her body
When you stroke and breath over her skin
She is getting soaken wet on her panties
When you tease her with your hands and tongue
She feels with every beat of her heart
She wants you when your cock rubs over her
Her breathing gets heavier and she moans
When you lick and suck her nipples and crotch
It drives her crazy and makes her wild of you
When you spread her legs and look at her
She is only thinking now Take me!Fuck me!
When you move in she feels the warm silky skin
She feels it on the outside skin around her pussy
She feels it on the inside skin surrounding your cock
Now is the time to move and first she wants it slow
Stimulating her clitoris with your thumb and fingers
Will get her to press her inner muscles tighter
With every move get a bit faster and deeper
She feels it inside and she feels it outside of her skin
Little thunderbolts start to explode on that again and again
Tension grows up in her whole body , don`t stop now!
She feels that thunderbolts growing bigger and bigger
Moaning, heavy breathing and groaning comes from her
Move faster , move deeper, rub harder clit and labia
With every rub and move she feels her relief is close
She moves her hips harder against you and your prick
She begs to fuck her! She screams she will come soon
And then there is a big big thunderbolt exploding
It goes through her whole body from head to toes
Spasm on her skin inside and outside her pussy
Cant get enough , never want it to stop ,please no!
She makes a last loud scream of name or expression
Then she falls over and breath hard till her twitches ebb
But guess what if it is a multi she will have that twice or 3rd?
A multi orgasm the only way to make her exhausted !
Trembles and spasm that seem not to end so good
A twister that takes her body and mind away from earth
She will love it and searching for it every time again!
FEMALE SUPREMACY~
Female supremacy, many images come to mind when you hear that phrase. The ball-breaking female executive in a power suit, the man-hating Xena type riding full out hair streaming behind her, the man-hating bull dyke truck driver in overalls, the super bitch in leather with nosebleed stiletto's, all those stereotypes and which one am I? None of them actually. There are many reasons why I believe in female supremacy and the superiority of matriarchy and goddess worship over current trends. I will share those reasons with you, and you can make up your own mind.
Long ago men provided physical protection from bigger beasts and the harsh environment. Since women are the bearers of new additions to the population, it was and is hardly meant to put them on the lines of fire so to speak. So they were and are protected because of their ability to procreate and swell the numbers of the community. The women cooked, farmed, and gathered fruits, vegetables, roots and various other edibles. This was a vital function if the hunting was bad, and to enrich the diet when hunting was good. Smaller, wiry men are considered quicker than the large, bulky men. But women, smaller still, are not usually credited with quickness or dexterity. Often they are quicker and more dexterous than men are. That being what you learn best when you work with your hands making clothes, picking fruit, weaving rugs, etc. You needed both halves to have a complete whole; someone to hunt and protect, and someone to stay home, gather, farm, cook and create. Is it a coincidence, that the first thing mankind worshiped was a goddess? The oldest religious artifact found is the Great Goddess of Heaven. Often depicted as a disk or circle, she is symbolic of the firmament and eternal cycles of nature. Male religious figures where always a secondary role of lesser powers, considered mortal and not as important as the female figures. Often, ancient tombs of an old agricultural race are found that are shaped in the form of pregnant bellies, the entrance is vulva shaped. No weapon has ever been found in these graves. Until the surge of barbaric nomads, matriarchal societies flourished with their goddesses and nonviolent ways. Nomads measured virtue in the form of bodily strength, fighting skills, and warfare proficiency. They were crude and violent, sweeping through the peaceful, intelligent and non-violent goddess tribes like wildfire. Killing what they couldn't fuck or eat. Gentle and powerful goddess worship gave way to much cruder and violent male deity worship. Goddess worship has, however, persisted. The images of cross, eye, triangle, and fishbone patterns are all aspects of ancient goddesses that are woven into rugs, clothing, tatoos, adornments, jewelry, and china patterns, slyly passed on in patriarchal religions as their own invention. Many people will argue that there was no society in which women ruled. This is not true. There were many societies, such as the Iroquois, Ashanti, and Dahomeans. Often these older Indian cultures have been pointed out to be superior to our current social structure. I agree with that idea as well. The women held power, but not as conspicuously as men do in current society.
Women are rational; they are more prone to use their intelligence over their hormones to make decisions. Some are quick to play the pms card, but we women use drugs, if needed, to balance us out during those times. Men have yet to take a pill to make the penis go down so they can make objective choices. Men are visual; women are emotional. Everyone knows this. Things and people might appear to be beautiful and wondrous, but they might not really be that way on the inside. So while men's sight tells them that's a pretty, hot babe, women's emotions know that bitch is cruel and mean. Men will fuck that same cruel bitch anyway, just to say they did it. That is base and animalistic behavior, to rut uncaring of your partner. One night stands - men think these are lucky coincidences. While that woman, perhaps for the rest of her life, will hate herself for doing this, and will hate the man for not calling. Men have problems controlling their baser instincts. 96% of serial killers are male, 98% of child molesters are male, 95% of rapists are male, 80% of violent (non-sexual) crime is committed by men and 2 out of 3 married men have committed adultery, without the consent of their partner. Looking pretty grim isn't it ladies? Yet this same gender, with their inability to control themselves and their excessive use of hormones ruling their decisions, who are solely responsible for the most horrendous crimes, wars, and human cruelties, are often put in a positions of leadership time and time again. It's been said, "Behind every good man is a great woman." This is more a truism than you could ever know. Some of the best male leaders had a wife to temper their judgement and guide them. Some of the best leaders where women.
There are always extremists in any ideology and those extremists can be quite annoying to those outside and within the particular school of thought. Those extremists in female supremacy are what we would term amazons and they seem to be an online phenomenon in my experience. All men should not be worshiping women; they aren't all lesser beings; and they don't all need to be shipped off to an island or made obsolete. We as female supremacists have good relationships with men, men who are friends, and men who are our submissives. We don't abuse or humiliate my boys because of their gender. Men don't need to be ruled with an iron fist; they just need guidance. If they don't accept it, then don't argue the point; just let them make their mistake. Most of us haven't been raped, molested, had a man promoted over us, had a man replace us, or had a man abandon us as children. We aren't recruited into this by a roving band of lesbian Mafioso. We have many strong female role models our lives, and not any strong male ones. We have heard the stereotypes about women, and laughed at the insanity of it. We have overcome the mold, thought for ourselves and figured out how it all works for us. Female Supremacy isn't full of extremists who try to bomb football games and cuckold their husbands. Our reasons are many, but our ideology is sound. We're people you know, people you work with, and people you're related to. You might even have a little streak inside waiting to come out.
I AM TRANSGENDER~
A question that plagues many transgendered individuals is, Why do I
feel a need to wear women's clothing? or Why do I feel I am in the
wrong body? Crossdressing usually starts at a very early age. Most
transgendered report their earliest awareness of gender identity as
being six to eight years old. However for clinically referred
children, onset of cross-gender interest and activities is usually
between ages 2 and 4, and some parents report that their child has
always had cross-gender interest. (DSM-IV) This would tend to
indicate that for the group as a whole, the six to eight range is
only age of awareness, not the age at which cross-gender interest
begins.
It is human nature to look for a reason, and a transgendered
individual will usually try to determine if something in the past has
caused this behavior. Even if some justification is rationalized, it
doesn't change one's behavior. Throughout life, crossdressers often
think it is just a fetish or a habit and try to quit, only to come
back weeks, months, or years later. Quitting is often referred to as
purging. Something will happen, such as being caught or almost
caught and a crossdresser will decide to quit. He will dispose of
all his female clothing and makeup. I hate to think of all the times
I did this in the past. After a period of time--a few days to
several months--he will go a buying binge and re-acquire clothing and
makeup. In rare cases, a crossdresser may go several years or quit
entirely. There are advantages to purging--makeup stays fresh and
clothing will be in style. On a more serious note, family and social
life may benefit, but each individual has to decide what the
emotional toll of trying to quit will be on him.
Some recent studies on male-to-female transsexuals indicate that the
hypothalamus in the brain is more like that of a woman than a man.
Perhaps this is true in varying degrees for all transgendered.
Whatever the reason, transgendered individuals crossdress because
they do. This is probably not the answer one is looking for, but the
fact is that there is not a definitive answer.
The idea that transgendered are gay is a common misconception. There
is no relationship between gender identity and sexual preference.
There are gay and bisexual transgendered individuals, but the
majority of the transgendered community is heterosexual. So why are
gay bars the bar of choice for transgendered? Thank the drag queens
for this. Drag entertainment has been associated with the gay
community for many years, so crossdressing is a familiar sight.
Also, the gay community has had many of the same prejudices that the
transgendered community suffers from. The gay community as a whole
is accepting, but don't expect this to carry through on an individual
basis. Many gay men, also, just don't understand that gender
identity and sexual preference are unrelated terms.
Being mistaken as gay can at times work to the advantage of a
transgendered individual. A tg has very little protection under the
law against discrimination (employment, housing, etc.) or hate crimes
(some states including Missouri now include transgender in their hate
crime sentencing provisions), unlike members of the gay community,
and to be mistaken as gay may provide some needed protection in these
areas. Another advantage is that women tend to be more open because
they do not feel threatened by a gay man. If you are planning on
getting out, shopping or to a straight bar, it is nice to meet some
friendly people, so don't be to quick to dispel their misconception.
Transgender vs. Transsexual~
Transsexual is a more precisely defined term than transgender in that
researchers and clinicians use the term to describe people who
undergo or want to undergo sex reassignment. Those engaging with the
medical community organized around the term frequently passing
through a series of understandings of themselves in relation to the
term "transsexual" unaware of the term, wondering if it applies to
them, seeing how their medical needs mean it does, and later
identifying themselves as "having been" transsexual while engaged
with the medical process but simply being men or women. The
term "transsexual" thus retains a stable meaning relative to a
treatments that would be impossible without scientific knowledge
regarding things like sex hormones and surgical techniques.
Many individuals who are technically "transssexual" by the formal
definition (seeking or having sought surgical treatment) initially
feel squeamish around the term simply because it contains the
term "sex" it it, and it mentally primes for imagery around genitals
and the act of sex. In most cases they chose to personally identify
as "transgender" for a period of time without realizing any of the
history or socio-political structures that have developed around the
term. Thus, depending on the speech community the difference between
transgender and transsexual is purely one of semantics (that is, some
speakers say "transgender" and intend to denote basically the same
thing as clinicians denote with "transsexual"). And because the
incidence of transsexuality is so low, it is difficult for
transsexual people to find each other and affiliate. Socially
speaking the "transsexual community" is more of an archipelago than a
continent.
But as long as the term transgender has existed, there have been
reasons to use it distinctly and separately from the term
transsexual. In fact, Charles "Virginia" Prince, the founder of the
cross dressing organization Tri-Ess and coiner of the
term "transgender", did so because he wished to distinguish himself
from transsexual people. In "Men Who Choose to Be Women" Prince
wrote "I, at least, know the difference between sex and gender and
have simply elected to change the latter and not the former". There
is a substantial academic literature on the difference between sex
and gender. It suffices to say here that Prince is referring roughly
to distinctions between gendered physical bodies and gendered social
roles and dismissing people who change their bodies as "not knowing"
about a distinction he sees as critical.
This serves as an example of a broader set of issues
with "transgender" as as an umbrella term for "gender variant
people". There are three major factors at play:
Transwomen are (for whatever reasons) a dramatic, highly visible,
very small group of people who serve as a prototype for both the
category transsexual and transgender. They are deployed as lurid or
tragic characters in television and film. They are written about by a
variety of cisgendered authors who use them as extreme examples to
make theoretical points (EG Janice Raymond and Michael Bailey). Also,
they are frequently used (especially when they're young and
attractive) as vivid examples of women unfairly mistreated by social
and political and economic systems - hence they can be deployed as "a
worthy liberal cause".
Most transgendered people are not transwomen. Transmen are also
uncommon but draw less attention. And transsexual men and women are
outnumbered by cross dressing males such as Helen Boyd's husband
(described in "My Husband Betty"). The term can also be extended to
drag kings and drag queens, and for that matter (to the degree
that "transgender" is seen as a term encompassing all people who
deviate from ideals of straight masculinity or straight femininity)
to gays, lesbians, metrosexuals, infertile men and women, tomboys,
men with lisps, and so on (whether or not these groups see themselves
as transgender or not). The transgender political cause (in it's
broadest form ) advocates for the elimination of all social and
political sanctions for deviating from social expectations around
gender. In this sense it is consistent with some forms of feminism.
One might be tempted to say that "transgender" functions as a
replacement for "queer" except gay men are decentered from prototype
status in favor of transsexual women and cross dressing heterosexual
males don't object to being called "transgender".
When a person deviates from the script handed to them by they culture
when they were born, they are likely to face stigma. If they are
unwilling or unable to follow the script they must rethink a
substantial amount of their identity, explaining to themselves and
others the illegitimacy of their stigma. Their justification is
pointless unless it permits the person retain their dignity while
doing what they deem necessary for survival and/or happiness, but
smaller claims will be more likely to be broadly accepted.
An "umbrella justification" is necessarily radical (and unlikely to
succeed politically, for example) while particular justifications are
likely to both conflict and be inadequate for all groups. Moreover,
the issue is likely to arouse controversy because it substantially
involves matters of self esteem.
These factors help explain tensions and divisiveness within the
communities falling under the "transgender" political umbrella. For
example, transsexual men and women who can pay for medical treatments
(or who have institutional coverage for their treatment) are likely
to be be concerned with medical privacy and establishing a durable
legal status as men and women later in life. Extending insurance
coverage for medical care is a coherent issue in the intersection of
transsexuality and economic class. Most of these issues can appeal
even to conservatives if framed in terms of an unusual sort
of "maintenance" of traditional notions of gender for rare people who
feel the need for medical treatments. Some trans people might express
this by saying "I don't challenge the gender binary, I just started
out on the wrong side of it."
This "conservative friendly" framing is actively threatened (and made
less politically viable) by fuzzier notions of "transgender" issues
where it is precisely the maintenance or support of identity
boundaries based on gender that is considered unjust. Sometimes the
more radical "transgender" cause is characterized as an effort
to "tear down the gender binary", a key element of Third-wave
feminism.
When the term "transgender" frames a policy debate the issue is more
likely to revolve around issues of "bathroom segregation", violence
targeting gender variant people, and employment (see ENDA). Some
transsexuals (especially as their medical treatment fades into their
history) object to being used as a central example of a political
category when the issues advanced under that category are far from
their primary concerns.
At the same time the incidence of transsexualism is so low that if
active lobbying is to be done on behalf of transsexuals, it appears
pragmatically to require their forming a coalition with more numerous
and homogeneous communities like gays, lesbians, cross dressers,
and/or feminists (all of these alliances requiring the
broader/inclusive "transgender" framing which can be seen as hostile
to the less culturally radical notions associated with policies that
would benefit actual transsexuals). The "conservative" framing of
transsexuality is thus in a sort of political limbo. The transsexual
men and women who welcome it are vastly outnumbered by their
potential allies, all of whom offer help in the service of a larger
progressive agenda to dismantle hierarchies around gender.
The term "trans" is an emerging term with many of the same underlying
issues as "transgender". In some support communities it is used as a
term that synonymous with "transsexual" but better because it lacks
the embedded "sex" and accompanying mental associations.
In more publicly visible communities focused on education and
activism, "trans" is being used as an synonym for the umbrella
term "transgender" that has not yet been polluted by interfactional
controversy. For example, Leslie Feinberg has called for the
replacement of transgender as an umbrella term with the term trans (
see page xi). This terminological effort focuses on issues of
identity formation and attempts to privilege no group in the
transgender communities. It has successfully served as a bridging
term in places like the Survivor Project. Also, Remembering Our Dead
memorializes while refraining from labeling those memorialized as
transgender - or indeed as any sex or gender category - unless it was
documented as used by the person memorialized.
It is unlikely that those who commit hate crimes against gender
variant people care to grapple with specifics of their victims'
identities.
Transgender and healthcare
Main article: Transgender transition
See also: Gender transitioning
Mental healthcare
Beginning therapy is recommended for all people are frustrated by
their gender, especially if they desire to transition. People who
experience discord between their gender and the expectations of
others or whose gender identity conflicts with their body benefit by
talking through their feelings in depth with someone who will listen
indefinitely. However, gender identity is new to psychology and
research is still in its infancy.
Transgendered people may be eligible for diagnosis of gender identity
disorder "only if [being transgender] causes distress or
disability." This distress is referred to as gender dysphoria and may
manifest as depression or inability to work and form healthy
relationships with others. This diagnosis is often over-simplified to
mean that simply being transgender means a person suffers from GID
which is not true. This has caused much confusion to transgendered
people and those who strongly seek to either criticize or affirm
them. Transgendered people who are comfortable with their gender,
whose gender does not directly cause inner frustration or impair
their functioning, do not have GID and are not applicable for a
related mental disorder. Further, GID is not permanent and is usually
resolved through therapy and transitioning, especially its social
aspects. GID does not refer to people who feel oppressed by the
negative attitudes and behaviors or others including legal entities
in the same way that racist institutions do not create a "race
disorder." Neither does GID imply an opinion of immorality - the
psychological establishment holds the position that people with any
kind of mental or emotional problem should not receive stigma. The
solution for GID is whatever will alleviate suffering and restore
functionality; this often, but not always, consists of undergoing a
gender transition.
The terms "transsexualism", "dual-role transvestism", "gender
identity disorder in adolescents or adults" and "gender identity
disorder not otherwise specified" are listed as such in the
International Statistical Classification of Diseases (ICD) or the
American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
Transgender issues are both new in the scientific field and affect
relatively few people, so understandably many mental healthcare
providers know little about transgender issues. People seeking help
from these professionals often end up educating the professional
rather than receiving help. Among those therapists who profess to
know about transgender issues, many believe that transitioning from
one sex to another — the standard transsexual model — is the best or
only solution. This usually works well for those who are transsexual,
but is not the solution for other transgender people, particularly
genderqueer people who do not identify as exclusively male or female.
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