I enjoy the emotional and mental aspects of BDSM as much or more than the physical aspects. If you're into such things, know that although I am dominant, I'm not a big fan of being called sir or master, nor do I desire to punish you for my own pleasure.

My wife and I have had several incredibly satisfying relationships with a third, and we're thrilled with how well it has worked out for us (although each has ended for various reasons.) She has also been my submissive for nearly that length of time in a total power exchange relationship (this means that she considers herself my property to do wish as I wish.)

I can usually be found in Utherverse wearing khaki slacks and a Hawaiian shirt, just like Bear in real life.

In the Utherverse, I am open to being the master of a full-time submissive, assuming I hit it off well enough with someone to make that happen. If you seek a physically strict master, or one who dons the typical black/leather gear, I'm definitely not your guy.

And now, "things that are largely irrelevant here but are included for completeness," so you can get a better idea who we are and what we are:

In real life, we're interested in a long-term relationship. We're not interested in starting a family or exploiting you by having you do all the housework, we are sincerely interested in a three-way relationship involving the two of us and you. We want to go out and do stuff with you, have you over for movies or dinner, whatever you would consider the traditional courtship stuff, but with three people instead of two.

If you're female, bisexual, emotionally available, and most of all if you find us interesting, we'd like to get to know you!